For Parents and In-Laws

Collected ideas from some young couples about things that their parents and in-laws could do to affirm them as couples. Thought they were insightful and hope others will add ideas as they come to mind. I'll gladly begin a parents forum of thoughts for their married children if any of you parents will send some in...

For Parents/In laws
+You did an amazing job raising us.
+We have learned and are learning from both your strengths and weaknesses.
+We love you and want a relationship with you.
+You are important to us.
+We need you to know that our relationship is the most important to us. That's biblical.
+We are united in our decisions.
+That you would learn to know us as the men/women we have become rather than the child you raised.
+It's ok to call and see how WE are doing.
+If we decide to do things differently than our parents, that we do not think badly of them for the decsions they made.
+We want to feel like adults in your eyes.
+We love you, but we also have a life we are building together.
+We need your wisdom and encouragement, but we don't need you to dominate our lives and choices.
+Trust your children-know that they still love you and because they may not call daily or come back to visit regularly, that doesn't mean you've done something wrong.
+Don't worry.
+Give space to newly weds, but still keep in touch. There is a fine line-we know it's hard.
+Be understanding and supportive when the couple makes a united decision.
+SOUND PROOF THE GUEST BEDROOM :)
+Be flexible with us
+Be interested in our life, but not overbearing
+No guilt trips
+No comparison to spouse's family
+Really listen
+Communicate plans and expectations when you are visiting in our home
+Don't divide couple.